Basically, yes. If the hair mesh structure allows it, try to split it into parts, layers, I'd call it.
XPS, as far as I understand, will load meshes in the exact order they stand in the .ascii/mesh file. Please note that at the export, be it by XPS or by Blender scripts, meshes will be rearranged in the order those scripts are programmed to do,
alphabetically, not naturally.
So you need XPS to load those layers in correct order, from the most bottom one (closer to the scalp), to the outer ones, and for that you need correct naming before exporting from Blender/any tool you use, I usually go with something like "hair1a" for the lowest one, "hair1b" for next, "hair1c an so on. Since they all will have same render group number, they will be exported in correct order.
Let's say you have these groups:
41_hair
41_glasses
2_eye
25_fabric
7_lashes
24_clothes
Blender script or XPS export will arrange them like this:
2_
24_
25_
41_
glasses
41_
hair
7_ so the XPS will load them in this order. The lashes will be loaded after the hair and glasses, thus result in the same problem you have.
To arrange meshes then, you have to either name them properly before export,
or use Zareef's tool to simply drag and drop meshes before importing to XPS, but for this tool, the .ascii must be perfectly correct, or it will shoot errors at you if it encounters even tiniest syntax error, or lack of data where it expects data to be. Or just cut and paste huge chunks of text in .ascii files in Notepad, which I don't recommend.
If you have few same render groups that use transparency, make sure the names of these groups are alphabetically correct before exporting to .ascii, like I mentioned at the beginning.
If you have few different render groups that use transparency, make sure they stand in the .ascii file in the order you want them to stand, beginning from the most hidden one, through the middle layers, to outer layers.
Hope that explains anything o,O
Edit 1: I personally don't use groups 40/41. there's something wrong with how the things look, but I can't define it so I can report in a way that could be understandable. It's just stuff... looks too plastic, and is constantly transparent where it shouldn't be.